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Rae Stonehouse

Rae Stonehouse

Author Bio:

Rae A. Stonehouse is a Canadian born author & speaker. His professional career as a Registered Nurse working predominantly in psychiatry/mental health, has spanned four decades.

Rae has embraced the principal of CANEI (Constant and Never-ending Improvement) as promoted by thought leaders such as Tony Robbins and brings that philosophy to each of his publications and presentations.

Rae has dedicated the latter segment of his journey through life to overcoming his personal inhibitions. As a 20+ year member of Toastmasters International he has systematically built his self-confidence and communicating ability. He is passionate about sharing his lessons with his readers and listeners. His publications thus far are of the self-help, self-improvement genre and systematically offer valuable sage advice on a specific topic. He is a long-time member of Kelowna Flying Solo Toastmasters and is the driving force behind its long-term success. 

His writing style can be described as being conversational. As an author Rae strives to have a one-to-one conversation with each of his readers, very much like having your own personal self-development coach. Rae is known for having a wry sense of humour that features in his publications.

Author of Self-Help Downloadable E-Books:

Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy People: Tips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly!

PROtect Yourself!PROtect Yourself! Empowering Tips & Techniques for Personal Safety: A Practical Violence Prevention Manual for Healthcare Workers.

E=Emcee SquaredE=Emcee SquaredTips & Techniques to Becoming a Dynamic Master of Ceremonies.

Power of PromotionPower of Promotion: On-line Marketing for Toastmasters Club Growth


Phone Rae 250-451-6564 or

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Copyright 2015 & 2016 Rae Stonehouse. The above document may be freely copied and distributed as long as the author’s name and contact info remain attached.

To learn more about Rae A. Stonehouse, visit the Wonderful World of Rae Stonehouse at http://raestonehouse.com

Does public speaking require improvisational skills? No.

Could a public speaker benefit from improvisational skills? Most definitely!

Thursday, 09 November 2017 02:40

What do you think about when you give a speech?

There are a myriad of thoughts going through my head when I deliver a speech.

The most obvious of course being the next line that I need to deliver. Taking that to a bigger picture I need to think about where the next line is in perspective to the overall story. Sometimes I need to divert from my script to provide clarity for the audience on an element of the speech or to answer an urgent question. The challenge can be to get back to my original story.

If doesnt challenge you TI graphicI agree with William Vietinghoff. It has been very much a journey experience for me rather than a destination.

I earned my DTM back in 2008 and am a couple tasks short of earning my second one.

Years ago, a TM colleague of mine, likened the Communications Program to attending elementary school. The Advanced Program, was likened to secondary school. Earning your DTM was analogous to entering university.

My DTM didn’t make me an expert at communicating or leadership. However, by the time I got to that point it had reduced my fears and inhibitions to the point that I was willing to take chances and opportunities.

Communication Works for those who work at itGenerally, we don’t use the terms ‘critic’ or ‘criticism’ within Toastmasters.

Criticism, tends to have a negative connotation. Very few people enjoy being criticized.

In an effective Toastmasters club, the act of criticizing has been replaced with providing constructive feedback.

This of course, depends on the level of self-confidence and experience of the evaluator.

Almost every aspect of a Toastmaster meeting receives feedback. Some is better than others, but the overall intent is to help the person being evaluated to improve.

I believe that the feedback from three speech experts to be of more value than an audience of 100 regular audience members.

I’m not sure what ‘regular’ audience members has to do with anything? The state of their bowel movements shouldn’t come into play.

Dont Let Your VoiceSpeech ideas are all around us.

If you are interested in something, curious about a topic or even close to being an expert on a particular subject, you have something to talk about. And odds are, somebody will be interested in hearing what you have to say.

In the Competent Communicator manual and throughout the Advanced Communication Program manuals there are projects i.e. speeches that have a specific set of objectives.

Any number of topics can likely fit into a project’s objectives if you craft it to do so.

Speak Up Believe in YourselfThere are no guarantees that it will. However, if you participate in the program and take advantage of every growth opportunity that presents itself, the odds are very high that you will likely land a higher paying job.

Likely, many people still think Toastmasters is about public speaking skills. That is still a major component, but there is so much more.

I joined some 23 years ago to develop my public speaking skills. I stay because of the growth opportunities.

Learning to speak publicly and to communicate more effectively help to develop your self-confidence. And that really is where the leverage point is. The more challenges you take on, the more your self-confidence increases. The more your self-confidence increases the better you are to take on ever increasing challenges. Which of course … leads to increasing your self-confidence even more.

Years ago, Toastmasters International factored in leadership training and opportunities to their program. In order to develop leadership skills, you have to actually lead someone.

There are multiple levels of servant leadership within the Toastmasters organization and each level you take on provides guidance, training and feedback. Once again, this adds to your self-confidence.

Your increased communication skills, your effective leadership skills and your increased self-confidence is what will give you the courage and determination to apply for higher paying jobs.

While making ever-increasing amounts of money is desirable, you may find it just as important to find a job that satisfies other needs such as creativity, excitement, a sense of satisfaction etc.

Working through the Communication program and delivering speeches, including Table Topics i.e. impromptu speaking, will help with answering interview questions.

You still need to know the tactics of how to answer job interview questions though. What would wow your fellow club members in a Table Topics session may blow your chances of being offered a job, if you don’t tell your interviewer what they want to hear.

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Thursday, 09 November 2017 02:14

What are the uses of oral communication?

Behind the NeedUses? To quickly share information with others that share a common language.

There are numerous occasions that we encounter on a daily basis that would be considered examples of oral communication.

Thursday, 09 November 2017 02:10

How will Toastmasters be helpful in learning?

Be the ExpertThe Toastmasters program is a learning program. It is a self-paced, self-directed program.

You learn by self-study i.e. by participating in the communication & leadership program. You learn by researching topics for your presentations.

You also learn about many subjects from listening to other members sharing their experiences, research and presentations.

Dont Let Your VoiceI would start off by challenging your assertion that people don’t deliver really long speeches anymore. We certainly still see it with church leaders and long-winded politicians.

I would suggest changing the words ‘long prepared speeches’ to ‘presentations’.

Longer presentations are very common in the business world.

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