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Thursday, 18 August 2016 03:07

Should I join speech and debate in highschool?

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 I am involved in other things and don't know if I can find time.  

I think it would be a useful experience, but I am also trying to make nationals for biology Olympiad and do scientific research. Also I'm involved with violin/orchestra and 3 other clubs. The time management dilemma is killing me.


I’ve never liked questions that start with the word ‘should.’ You don’t need our permissionto make your choice.

All things being equal, there could be great value in participating in a speech & debate club. It will help you develop skills and self-confidence that will go a long way in helping you in your journey through life.

As others have mentioned, I too am concerned about the workload you have taken on for yourself. When things are going smoothly, it is likely a lot of fun. But what happens when one or more of your extracurricular activities has a time related deadline?

This can put undue pressure on you. Pressure has a way of building up and eventually has to be released. You have probably heard of the term ‘nervous breakdown.’ Your nerves don’t actually break down but it may feel like that. This can happen to someone who doesn’t have the personal resources to meet all the commitments that they have made. You have mentioned ‘the time management dilemma’ so you are aware of the increasing pressure and the possibility of what could happen.

While personal growth, exploring new fields and developing self-confidence can be exciting, having a balance in life is also very important. I would suggest exploring other opportunities for developing your speaking and communication skills. Perhaps a local Toastmasters Club offers a Speechcraft Program? Speechcrafts are self-contained programs of 1 to 2 hour sessions, once a week for 4 to 10 weeks. The program can help you quickly develop your skills and other than making a commitment to attendance, they don’t take up a huge amount of your very limited time.

Life is also about making choices. If you want to take on more than your already heavy schedule, you may find that you have to put restrictions on the activities that you currently participate in.

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