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Thursday, 18 August 2016 02:54

How can I overcome my fear of public speaking?

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How can I overcome my fear of public speaking?Your question focuses on the fear that you and many people have about public speaking, not how to be a better public speaker. Yet, there lays the answer. As you become a better public speaker, your fear will reduce.

Many people use the acronym FEAR as follows: False Expectations Appearing Real. Fear is only in our minds. What one person fears, another may not. I work in psychiatry. A fellow worker named Mary was absolutely terrified of dealing with patients that got confrontational or aggressive. She would lock herself in the restroom until other staff had dealt with the situation.

Yet at the same time, Mary’s hobby was skydiving! I would certainly be fearful of jumping out of a perfectly good plane, but not Mary.

We aren’t born being afraid of public speaking, its something we develop. If we can become afraid, it is within us to become unafraid. The cure for fear is self-confidence.

So how do you overcome the fear of public speaking? It probably depends on how much time do you have to devote to overcoming the fear; if you are able to financially afford it and do you need to be unafraid by a certain date i.e. you have an upcoming event that you are required to speak at.

My first recommendation would be look for a Toastmasters club in your community. They have helped countless thousands of people overcome their fear of public speaking and finding their voice within. Each and everyone of us has a story to tell.

Toastmasters isn’t a fast process though. It is one that if you do the work required of you, you will reap the benefits. If time is of the essence for you, you could engage the services of a speech coach to work specifically on reducing or eliminating your fears. At the same time, I would still recommend joining a Toastmasters club for having a place to practice the techniques that your coach is working with you on. I know of many people that have joined multiple Toastmasters club to increase their opportunities to improve their skills and rapidly increase their self-confidence. Once again, that would require time and money to do so.

Another strategy that I recommend is to buy and read books on the subject of public speaking. I have found that there are lots of them at bargain bins, yard sales and thrift shops. It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money to develop a good resource library.

Youtube & TEDTalks are a great way to watch skilled speakers and emulate some of the tactics they are using.

This is really a short answer to a very real challenge. You don’t learn public speaking by osmosis. You have to get out there and do it. The same applies to overcoming any fear. You have to actively work at overcoming it. When I have overcome a personal fear I have often wondered about why I was afraid of something in the first place.

Good luck with becoming a confident speaker. Opportunity has a way of presenting itself when you are ready to move forward.

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Rae Stonehouse

Author Bio:

Rae A. Stonehouse is a Canadian born author & speaker. His professional career as a Registered Nurse working predominantly in psychiatry/mental health, has spanned four decades.

Rae has embraced the principal of CANEI (Constant and Never-ending Improvement) as promoted by thought leaders such as Tony Robbins and brings that philosophy to each of his publications and presentations.

Rae has dedicated the latter segment of his journey through life to overcoming his personal inhibitions. As a 20+ year member of Toastmasters International he has systematically built his self-confidence and communicating ability. He is passionate about sharing his lessons with his readers and listeners. His publications thus far are of the self-help, self-improvement genre and systematically offer valuable sage advice on a specific topic. He is a long-time member of Kelowna Flying Solo Toastmasters and is the driving force behind its long-term success. 

His writing style can be described as being conversational. As an author Rae strives to have a one-to-one conversation with each of his readers, very much like having your own personal self-development coach. Rae is known for having a wry sense of humour that features in his publications.

Author of Self-Help Downloadable E-Books:

Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy People: Tips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly!

PROtect Yourself!PROtect Yourself! Empowering Tips & Techniques for Personal Safety: A Practical Violence Prevention Manual for Healthcare Workers.

E=Emcee SquaredE=Emcee SquaredTips & Techniques to Becoming a Dynamic Master of Ceremonies.

Power of PromotionPower of Promotion: On-line Marketing for Toastmasters Club Growth


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