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Monday, 03 April 2017 02:53

How do you develop the gift of the gab?

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Speak in Such a WayTo start with, I don’t believe that it is a gift, more likely a skill.

Many con artists are known to have the so-called gift of the gab. I’m not seeing it as a good thing.

We aren’t born with the ability to talk to almost anybody on almost any subject. Therefore, it must be a skill. If it is a skill than with practise we should be able to become better at it.

I wouldn’t expect to see a shy introvert that was considered to have the so-called ‘gift’ of the gab. It goes against their grain.

That would leave the extroverts that are disinhibited and not the least bit shy about talking to anybody and everybody that comes in their proximity.

That begs the question, can a shy introvert become more outgoing and become a good conversationalist? Most certainly. How?

Practice speaking with different people on a frequent basis. Learn the rules of conversation. Listen twice as much as you speak. Ask open-ended questions. Close-ended questions lead to a yes or no answer and kill conversations.

Research a lot of subjects that allow you to be able to talk on any subject.

I work in mental health. I talk for a living. I don’t consider myself as having the gift of the gab but I can speak quite well to someone if I resonate with them. I do find people that are painful to speak with. I have the skills and I really have to put them to work to get the other to speak up and share.

I also find that being able to read another person’s body language and imitating it back to them can go a long way in establishing good communication.

Joining a Toastmasters club would go a long way in getting you comfortable and skilled speaking in various situations.

Thanks for your question!

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Rae Stonehouse

Author Bio:

Rae A. Stonehouse is a Canadian born author & speaker. His professional career as a Registered Nurse working predominantly in psychiatry/mental health, has spanned four decades.

Rae has embraced the principal of CANEI (Constant and Never-ending Improvement) as promoted by thought leaders such as Tony Robbins and brings that philosophy to each of his publications and presentations.

Rae has dedicated the latter segment of his journey through life to overcoming his personal inhibitions. As a 20+ year member of Toastmasters International he has systematically built his self-confidence and communicating ability. He is passionate about sharing his lessons with his readers and listeners. His publications thus far are of the self-help, self-improvement genre and systematically offer valuable sage advice on a specific topic. He is a long-time member of Kelowna Flying Solo Toastmasters and is the driving force behind its long-term success. 

His writing style can be described as being conversational. As an author Rae strives to have a one-to-one conversation with each of his readers, very much like having your own personal self-development coach. Rae is known for having a wry sense of humour that features in his publications.

Author of Self-Help Downloadable E-Books:

Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy People: Tips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly!

PROtect Yourself!PROtect Yourself! Empowering Tips & Techniques for Personal Safety: A Practical Violence Prevention Manual for Healthcare Workers.

E=Emcee SquaredE=Emcee SquaredTips & Techniques to Becoming a Dynamic Master of Ceremonies.

Power of PromotionPower of Promotion: On-line Marketing for Toastmasters Club Growth


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