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Monday, 03 April 2017 02:07

How can I become a good public speaker if currently I become over-emotional and passionate while speaking and thus am hard to understand?

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A Good OratorWhether I'm just making a video to share later, or actually talking in front of other people, when I'm talking about something I'm passionate about I tend to jump around and sometimes my words become jumbled or sound slurred or overemotional, because I’m so passionate about the subject.


There is nothing wrong with being emotional in your presentations, in fact it adds to it. No emotion is boring. Over-emotion takes away from your ability to communicate effectively with your audience.

Being over-emotional can be indicative of a few different conditions:

1. The content may be too sensitive for you to talk about. Example, speaking about a person you have recently lost. They say time heals all wounds. Not always. It can take some time to reduce the pain that accompanies thinking and speaking about that individual.

2. You may be excited about a subject but may not have a good grasp on the content. This can cause you to get flustered and jumbled when your thoughts get a head of your mouth and tongue.

3. Speaking anxiety can be manifested when your overall speaking skills need to be improved. This can present itself as jumbling your message.

It has been said that North Americans speak at 125 to 150 words per minute. Some people can speak at 175 to 200 as you would hear in some radio/TV commercials. That would likely drive you crazy listening to a person who regularly spoke at that rate.

It has also been said that a picture is worth a thousand words. Our minds work in pictures, not words. When we are speaking, we are processing many different things: our rate, our pitch, room temperature, audience reception, audience resistance and likely quite a few others.

At the same time, we are delivering our lines of our presentation. The trick is to get your mind working and the thousand words a minute rate, but focussing on presenting your lines at the 125 to 150 words per minute rate.

I had challenges with this myself when I first started public speaking. I would have my lines memorized and I would deliver them staccato. That is like a quick machine gun burst. As the words downloaded from my mind to my tongue, they would come out in a burst and my message would get confusing to my audience. I had to learn to coordinate my mind and my tongue. It took a lot of practice.

Likely the best remedy for you, assuming you are over the age of 18 is to see if there is a local Toastmasters club in your community to join. Practice and more practice will help you overcome this challenge. Practice with constructive feedback is what will move you past this obstacle. A Toastmasters club will readily provide this for you.

Thanks for your question and good luck in overcoming this personal challenge.

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Rae A. Stonehouse is a Canadian born author & speaker. His professional career as a Registered Nurse working predominantly in psychiatry/mental health, has spanned four decades.

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