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Monday, 03 April 2017 01:35

How can I get over my extreme fear of talking to new people?

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 I want to get my first job, the only kind for teens typically involving customer service.


Sounds like you are caught up in what’s called a ‘self-fulfilling prophesy.”

You expect to be afraid of talking to new people, therefore you will act in that way.

First jobs are often identified as opportunities to develop one’s social skills, reduce one’s shyness and build confidence. As you journey through life, every job you take on from the very first one will add to your skills and experience.

Don’t let your current fear prevent you from taking on that first job. FEAR is often defined as False Expectations Appearing Real. They aren’t real! We make them that way.

The only way to conquer a fear is to hit it head on and not let it control you.

I’ve been fearful of many things throughout my life. I was terrified of public speaking. I got tired of being afraid and decided to do something about it. Now I speak regularly and teach others how to public speak.

Your first job, which sounds like it will be an entry level, customer service one, will present you with challenges to overcome. Just because you are currently afraid, doesn’t mean that you will continue to be. You may open a whole set of opportunities that could lead to a career path.

You never know what will happen when you conquer a fear. A common response to conquering a fear is in wondering why it was so over-powering in the first place.

Go for it!


Rae Stonehouse

Author Bio:

Rae A. Stonehouse is a Canadian born author & speaker. His professional career as a Registered Nurse working predominantly in psychiatry/mental health, has spanned four decades.

Rae has embraced the principal of CANEI (Constant and Never-ending Improvement) as promoted by thought leaders such as Tony Robbins and brings that philosophy to each of his publications and presentations.

Rae has dedicated the latter segment of his journey through life to overcoming his personal inhibitions. As a 20+ year member of Toastmasters International he has systematically built his self-confidence and communicating ability. He is passionate about sharing his lessons with his readers and listeners. His publications thus far are of the self-help, self-improvement genre and systematically offer valuable sage advice on a specific topic. He is a long-time member of Kelowna Flying Solo Toastmasters and is the driving force behind its long-term success. 

His writing style can be described as being conversational. As an author Rae strives to have a one-to-one conversation with each of his readers, very much like having your own personal self-development coach. Rae is known for having a wry sense of humour that features in his publications.

Author of Self-Help Downloadable E-Books:

Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy People: Tips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly!

PROtect Yourself!PROtect Yourself! Empowering Tips & Techniques for Personal Safety: A Practical Violence Prevention Manual for Healthcare Workers.

E=Emcee SquaredE=Emcee SquaredTips & Techniques to Becoming a Dynamic Master of Ceremonies.

Power of PromotionPower of Promotion: On-line Marketing for Toastmasters Club Growth


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Copyright 2015 & 2016 Rae Stonehouse. The above document may be freely copied and distributed as long as the author’s name and contact info remain attached.

To learn more about Rae A. Stonehouse, visit the Wonderful World of Rae Stonehouse at http://raestonehouse.com

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