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Monday, 03 April 2017 00:55

What are some techniques to talk about yourself without looking too arrogant or too humble?

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What are some pointers on selling yourself to people?


This is a subject close to my heart as I am currently creating an on-line course to address this very issue. There are 21 lessons under development, so providing a condensed answer here on Quora is a little challenging.

There is a considerable difference between talking about yourself all the time and promoting yourself as the opportunity arises.

If you are one of those people who talk all the time about how wonderful you are and believe me I know more than a few, you will alienate others. They seem to have a smug superiority that is intended to put you down and raise their stature.

Bragging and self-promoting are different. I believe that you can get attention drawn to yourself in a healthy way, by having a strategy that draws attention to a cause you support or on how you are trying to improve upon something. By doing so, the cause and the desired results becomes the focus, not you.

Likely, one of the first steps in self-promoting is to consider yourself the product. You are taking the concept of product branding from the business world and applying it to yourself. How do you want to present yourself to the world?

If you don’t blow your own horn, who will? I have lost out on an opportunity to attend university because I hadn’t self-promoted. I have also had other professionals take credit for my work and receive the accolades that should have been mine. That won’t happen again!

Another concept to get your head wrapped around is that in promoting yourself you actually have to promote yourself. Focusing on one’s accomplishments can be challenging at first.

I cut my teeth, so to speak, on creating promotional copy for 30 or so entrepreneurial events that I was hosting. To sell tickets, I had to promote the benefits of attending the event. Then I had to make sure we delivered on what we promised.

A good first step to the self-promoting game is to tweak your Linkedin profile so that it works as a marketing department for you. While Linkedin used to be like having your resume on steroids, it is more helpful to think of it as a marketing platform where you are the product. Your promotional copy i.e. content should be crafted so that you are featured as a solution to somebody’s problem.

I’ve taken a different approach to my Linkedin profile than what others have. “How many people can honestly say that they spent part of their formative years in a maximum-security hospital for the criminally insane?” Want more …?

In the self-promotional game, it is helpful to have something of value to share. For an example check out my vanity site at 50 Shades of Rae if you will. When it comes to self-promoting I believe that you can’t take yourself too seriously.

Rae Stonehouse

Author Bio:

Rae A. Stonehouse is a Canadian born author & speaker. His professional career as a Registered Nurse working predominantly in psychiatry/mental health, has spanned four decades.

Rae has embraced the principal of CANEI (Constant and Never-ending Improvement) as promoted by thought leaders such as Tony Robbins and brings that philosophy to each of his publications and presentations.

Rae has dedicated the latter segment of his journey through life to overcoming his personal inhibitions. As a 20+ year member of Toastmasters International he has systematically built his self-confidence and communicating ability. He is passionate about sharing his lessons with his readers and listeners. His publications thus far are of the self-help, self-improvement genre and systematically offer valuable sage advice on a specific topic. He is a long-time member of Kelowna Flying Solo Toastmasters and is the driving force behind its long-term success. 

His writing style can be described as being conversational. As an author Rae strives to have a one-to-one conversation with each of his readers, very much like having your own personal self-development coach. Rae is known for having a wry sense of humour that features in his publications.

Author of Self-Help Downloadable E-Books:

Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy People: Tips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly!

PROtect Yourself!PROtect Yourself! Empowering Tips & Techniques for Personal Safety: A Practical Violence Prevention Manual for Healthcare Workers.

E=Emcee SquaredE=Emcee SquaredTips & Techniques to Becoming a Dynamic Master of Ceremonies.

Power of PromotionPower of Promotion: On-line Marketing for Toastmasters Club Growth


Phone Rae 250-451-6564 or

Rae’s social … are you?


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Copyright 2015 & 2016 Rae Stonehouse. The above document may be freely copied and distributed as long as the author’s name and contact info remain attached.

To learn more about Rae A. Stonehouse, visit the Wonderful World of Rae Stonehouse at http://raestonehouse.com

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