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Monday, 03 April 2017 00:48

How can I overcome my fear of public speaking?

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All speaking is public speakingShort Answer: 23 years as a member of Toastmasters International, taking every opportunity that has presented itself to get out of my comfort zone and speak.

Slightly Longer Answer: To be a good, fearless public speaker it is necessary that you have something to say. To be a good speaker, you need to be a good reader and a good listener.

The world is full of ideas and topics to speak about.

Overcoming fear of public speaking is all about systematically developing your speaking skills, which in turn improves your self-confidence. An improved self-confidence allows you to take advantage of opportunities to improve your speaking skills, even more.

Speak up and speak often. Every time you speak and it doesn’t kill you, it makes you stronger. Speaking often helps to desensitize you to the fear, so that in time it disappears.

Assuming you are over the age of 18, check to see if there is a Toastmasters club in your community. There you will learn the skills to help hone your speaking skills. With effective feedback you will be able to improve your skills, which in turn will reduce your fear of public speaking.

I joined Toastmasters because I was terrified of public speaking. Last week I was attending a weekly meeting of my breakfast business referral marketing group. When I arrived, I found that I was scheduled as the featured speaker of the meeting and was expected to deliver a 20-minute presentation. I hadn’t been notified of the obligation.

My initial response to myself was ‘no way, I’m not prepared!” But then I said “Why not?”

I delivered an impromptu presentation on a subject that I was passionate about i.e. business networking. The speech was impromptu, but I had spoken numerous times on the content before, having written a book on the subject.

The group loved the presentation and apparently it has raised the bar very high for future speakers. I would have missed out on that opportunity if I had given into me original thoughts that were negative.

Fear of public speaking is conquerable.

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Rae Stonehouse

Author Bio:

Rae A. Stonehouse is a Canadian born author & speaker. His professional career as a Registered Nurse working predominantly in psychiatry/mental health, has spanned four decades.

Rae has embraced the principal of CANEI (Constant and Never-ending Improvement) as promoted by thought leaders such as Tony Robbins and brings that philosophy to each of his publications and presentations.

Rae has dedicated the latter segment of his journey through life to overcoming his personal inhibitions. As a 20+ year member of Toastmasters International he has systematically built his self-confidence and communicating ability. He is passionate about sharing his lessons with his readers and listeners. His publications thus far are of the self-help, self-improvement genre and systematically offer valuable sage advice on a specific topic. He is a long-time member of Kelowna Flying Solo Toastmasters and is the driving force behind its long-term success. 

His writing style can be described as being conversational. As an author Rae strives to have a one-to-one conversation with each of his readers, very much like having your own personal self-development coach. Rae is known for having a wry sense of humour that features in his publications.

Author of Self-Help Downloadable E-Books:

Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy People: Tips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly!

PROtect Yourself!PROtect Yourself! Empowering Tips & Techniques for Personal Safety: A Practical Violence Prevention Manual for Healthcare Workers.

E=Emcee SquaredE=Emcee SquaredTips & Techniques to Becoming a Dynamic Master of Ceremonies.

Power of PromotionPower of Promotion: On-line Marketing for Toastmasters Club Growth


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To learn more about Rae A. Stonehouse, visit the Wonderful World of Rae Stonehouse at http://raestonehouse.com

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