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This section hosts articles related to public speaking, writing articles/webcopy & presentation skill development. 

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 I want to get my first job, the only kind for teens typically involving customer service.


Sounds like you are caught up in what’s called a ‘self-fulfilling prophesy.”

You expect to be afraid of talking to new people, therefore you will act in that way.

Monday, 03 April 2017 01:23

Can I practice public speaking at home?

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Communication Works for those who work at itI’m not going to jump in with a resounding ‘Yes’ as others have. I’m going with a solid ‘it depends!’

If you are practicing alone, in front of a mirror, a captive cat or any other nonsentient creature, you are not public speaking. You are merely speaking out loud.

I have found that many beginning speakers have challenges with actually speaking out loud. They’re not used to projecting their voice or expressing their beliefs, orally, to a live or potential audience. There is good value in just speaking out loud. I often practice in my truck while commuting to work.

Ask a thought provoking questionIf you are needing to deliver a speech at a university level, the first thing to likely keep in mind is that your language to your audience i.e. fellow students and your professor, has to be at their level.

Your language should also include buzz words that are known to your audience. If you are speaking to an audience that doesn’t have a knowledge of your topic, you will likely have to spend more time explaining concepts.

Writing and speaking are two different forms of communication. When you sit down to write your speech, you have to do it as if you were speaking to someone, not writing to them.

I’m going to make the assumption that when you say ‘I'm good at reading people's non verbal behavior’ you are referring to reading them from a distance.

It would appear that you are experiencing some challenges with the 1 to 1 conversation where you lose your ability to read other people.

Behind the NeedI’m a quiet guy, but it seems like when someone starts a conversation with me, as soon as I talk they regret it. Its like I may not be giving them a good vibe or matching their energy.


Without actually observing you in conversation, there can be no definitive answer for you. And even then, it would be open to subjective and objective interpretation.

Let’s start off with what is known. You are a quiet guy. That more than likely means that you are a shy, introvert. That’s not a problem. It merely shows than you can benefit from some communication skills training. Many introverts are good conversationalists, as they tend to be better focussed on the conversation and the speaker than extroverts do.

I don’t believe that there is a one-size fits all answer to your question. You don’t tell us what level your class is i.e. elementary, secondary, college or university.

A speaker can glance at note cards, but when they glance at notes typed on their phone, it looks odd. It naturally gives the audience the sense that someone is checking their phone, not checking their notes. How can this be remedied? (When there is no podium or way to hide the phone.)


Unless you are delivering a speech about how you can deliver a speech by using a phone, I wouldn’t.

What are some pointers on selling yourself to people?


This is a subject close to my heart as I am currently creating an on-line course to address this very issue. There are 21 lessons under development, so providing a condensed answer here on Quora is a little challenging.

All speaking is public speakingShort Answer: 23 years as a member of Toastmasters International, taking every opportunity that has presented itself to get out of my comfort zone and speak.

Slightly Longer Answer: To be a good, fearless public speaker it is necessary that you have something to say. To be a good speaker, you need to be a good reader and a good listener.

The world is full of ideas and topics to speak about.

Overcoming fear of public speaking is all about systematically developing your speaking skills, which in turn improves your self-confidence. An improved self-confidence allows you to take advantage of opportunities to improve your speaking skills, even more.

The Success of Your PresentationThere are at least two types of speaking to give consideration: prepared speaking & impromptu.

While creating a ‘prepared’ speech, you have to keep in mind the audience that you will be speaking to. What will their level of comprehension be? While the simple formula of K.I.S.S. (Keep It Simple Sasquatch) might be appropriate in many situations, it wouldn’t be if you were speaking to an audience of educated people. Educated in the sense that they are knowledgeable about your topic. They, would likely be offended.

Mr. Google defines concise as being an adjective: ‘giving a lot of information clearly and in a few words; brief but comprehensive.’ The more educated audience would likely expect a concise presentation.

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